In addition to being Breast Cancer Awareness Month and Hispanic Heritage Month, October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Domestic violence isn’t just an adult problem; teens find themselves in abusive relationships, too. Here’s how to know if you should be worried about your child:
Your child’s significant other is controlling. People mistakenly believe that control or jealousy is a sign of love. “Oh, my boyfriend would kill me if he knew that I was going out tonight” or “My girlfriend doesn’t really like me to hang out with my friends anymore. She says they’re bad influences.” While people hearing these statements may joke about the teen being “whipped,” the fact is that abuse is real and not a laughing matter. This may be a warning sign that is easily missed.
Your child has inexplicable changes in mood, behavior or demeanor. Anyone who has ever had or worked with teenagers know that they can be moody. Everything from hormonal changes to peer relationships can cause them to be unhappy little creatures. That being said, don’t mistake a cry for help for normal teen emotions. Is there sudden onset of crying or angry outbursts since the commencement of your teen’s relationship? Is your child, once confident and strong, now jumping at the slightest touch or raised voice? If so, it may be time to dig deeper into what’s going on behind the scenes.
Your child places the blame on him or herself for the behavior of their significant other. Most people in relationships have a tendency to defend their mate and for the most part, that’s okay. However, when it comes to placing the blame on oneself for the way that the significant other is acting or treating them, that’s a red flag. Statements like, “She only ridicules me because I make stupid mistakes” or “He only yells at me because I make him angry” are tell-tale signs that your child may be in an abusive relationship.
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Domestic abuse is serious. If you or anyone you know is a victim of domestic abuse, please get help!
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